Praying for you and your family. We walk in your shoes daily there is no tired like autism parent tired. I hope you find what gives her peace, and what will give you ease in your heart. God would never bring you to it if he couldn't bring you through it. I know this seems so minor, but anything with red dye 40 sent our daughter in to some pretty major anger meltdowns...just a thought. Hang in there you are her voice and God really does have you!